We Will Survive !!!

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Dear Readers,

Are we sad, hurt, angry, mad, disappointed and we put on a happy face and move on? We have been put down many times and still we rise again much stronger than before? Have we already been through hell and gave our best shot? We never give up on anything, we are survivors !!

Some people have seen so much in life that they have learned how to get out of any bad situation. They know tomorrow will bring them what they deserve even if it is little too late. They have done nothing wrong to anyone and nothing wrong will happen to them. There is nothing good in their lives but still, if you see them you feel that you want to have a smile like them. They are strong and fearless. They will never accept anything wrong in their lives even if there is a price to pay. They always know when to stay and when to move on. It is ok to be alone rather than to be in a place where you are not yourself. They don’t fight and waste their energy on stupid things, they just say what they have to say and stop caring about what the world has to say in return. It hurts them to know that they tried doing their best to keep the relation and still it wasn’t good enough.

No matter how hard life gets, we will still smile. It might knock us down but it cannot keep us down forever. Once the storm is over, we won’t remember how we made it through, how we manage to survive. But one thing certain, when we come out of the storm, we won’t be the same person anymore. We are given this life because we are strong enough to live it. They always shine.

Just a message to all the people that are finding their way to survive,”Life is too short to be in a bad surrounding and think that it is your destiny, Life is about kicking some badasses and making your life the way you dreamed. Stop complaining and start taking control of your own life. Do the right thing and wait for the right thing to happen. Nothing good is easy to get and nothing good comes in a hurry so just sit back and smile”.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

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I Deserve Better !!!

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Dear Readers,

Have you been that person in life who has always cared about others feelings first? Have you not judged and respected everyone’s feelings? Have you always had an approach to understanding everyone out of the box? Have you always forgiven everyone who hurt you even if they have hurt you like a million times? Have you been hard on yourself just to make the opposite person happy and never expressed it at all? Have you kept your feelings to yourself just to avoid fights? Has your life been only about giving everything that you had? I guess no one ever understood why you do this, right?

In the process of making the world a better place some people just tend to forget themselves. It is so hard for them to step up and say,” What you said, hurt me, it’s not my fault and I don’t deserve this”. It is because they have been through a lot in life and a small amount of happiness means a lot even if it comes with a lot of compromises. They don’t want to miss out on any happiness even if it costs them their whole life. They are ok to let go of their anger, ego, attitude, self-esteem, and self-respect in order to be truly happy just for a few moments.

We don’t understand that everyone deserves better. Just that people that deserve don’t give up on people that they love. This quality should not be taken for granted. The problem is not with the person that took you for granted, the problem is yourself. You made excuses for their bad behavior, you accepted their obvious lies and you gave them another chance, again and again. You sold yourself for less, you did not believe you deserved better and you stayed too long. You learned the hard way, but you learned. You heart finally told you to stop wasting time. You deserve that love that you keep trying to give to everyone else. Never settle for shitty coffee, shitty friends or shitty men.

I told myself today that I deserve better. Maybe one day I will believe it.

Regards,
Swati chaurasia.

Not all wounds are visible Mr. Judgemental

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Dear Readers,

We live in a society where we love tagging and labeling people. We tag them on the base of color, religion, money, eating habits and many more, I am sure it is a never-ending list. Sometimes without us even realizing, these judgments become a part of our beliefs about that person. When did we become so shallow in our thinking about other people?. When did we stop having an open mind about our thinking about others? When did we start to decide whom we want to talk to or be around without knowing the opposite person 1st handed? Why are we making our life complicated by judging everything and believing it as if it is a fact of life?

It is good to have an opinion about people that we have known in life. We maybe had bad experiences and that is how we would have landed up to a conclusion of the person. It is a good thing, it helps us to protect our feelings and these kinds of feeling should be respected. When did we start doing the same without knowing the opposite person and started calling that our opinion? It’s not our opinion, it’s our judgment and so we are Mr.Judgemental.

With our judgemental nature, we do hurt a lot of people and not all wounds are visible. We forget the fact that we can never understand the opposite person unless and until we have not been in their shoes. Then what is the point of judging them, to hurt them more or to show yourself that you have a better life? Everyone needs mental support and judgment just makes it more and more difficult. If you cannot help someone with their problems, you have no right to comment too. It is ok not to agree with others point of view or decisions but at least we can respect their decision with open arms. If we cannot even do that then, A humble request, just leave them alone !!!

To all the people that have been judged,”Never waste your time trying to explain who you are to people that are committed to misunderstanding you”. We are aware that we are less than some people, but some people are unaware that we are so much more than what they see. We already have a difficult life and your judgment just makes it even worst. Some people are lucky that they have a life with everything they ever wanted but for some people, they have to build everything right from scratch without support. Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge.

Know my story first and then you have all the right to judge me. Don’t judge me just because I think differently than you.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

Sometimes it is better to move on !!!!

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Dear Readers,

Life is all about making choices, making mistakes and forgiving mistakes. If we don’t make mistakes then I feel we are not humans, we are dead zombies walking on the road waiting for the world to get ended. The point is not making mistakes but what we do about it when it has happened. Do we run away and feel guilty all our lives or we stand and face everything? If we are the victim then do we try to end our lives or we try to move on and live a better life? Let study both these situations.

What if it is our mistakes? I feel realizing that it is our mistake is the first step to correct them. This also shows that we are really sorry for our mistakes. Being forgiven for our mistakes is not in our control but saying sorry and not repeating again is only that we can do. One of the most important thing about this situation is,” Forgiving yourself”. The guilt of the mistake made by you can haunt you for life. It is better to forgive yourself because it is the only thing that will help you to move on and live a better life.

What if we are the victim? Sometimes it is better to move on as a victim instead of being the only person to fix things. Moving on never helps the opposite person, It helps you to deal with the situation and lead a positive life. If you have got hurt by someone and your heart has been broken multiple times, a wiser person is a person who is able to stand still in such a situation and smile and learn something positive from that situation. Sometimes it is just done, just walk away and move on, no ugly words, no formal goodbye, just no more and no looking back. You have to accept things the way they are and moving on can be the only solution.

Maybe sometimes it is not always about trying to fix something broken, maybe it is about starting over and creating something better. Sometimes we just have to let things go. Once you realize you deserve better, letting go will be the best decision ever.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

Born to be alone !!!

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Dear Readers,

Love leads us to whole new different level in life. It either makes us a better person or breaks us to pieces so small that cannot be stuck together ever. I am the second kind. Broken childhood, a bad father and a lot of broken relationships. Still, I had always hoped that someday someone so good will come in my life and all of my past will just fade away as if it was never a part of my past.

Today somehow I feel all my broken relationships are my fault. Maybe I am not a person born to be in any relation. A person like me should be alone. People blame other for their bad relations, I blame myself. I always wanted to be that girl who has one person who loves her like crazy. All of my life till date I have done everything to get that and somehow I am still alone.

The common thing in all my relationships till date is me. I have to stand up and face the mirror, It is because of me. My track records say that I am born to be alone but I feel I should be alone. I have hurt so many people in life that I don’t deserve a happy ending. I should be punished to be alone and face my fears all by myself. It hurts knowing that I tried doing my best but it still wasn’t good enough. I had always thought that we are born to be real but I guess we have to be perfect to fall in love.

Life always gives you a chance to change and I guess this is mine. Time to change for others and live however you want and let others live happily.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

Let your faith be bigger than your fears !!!

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Dear Readers,

Life always gives you a chance to live a better life. It also gives you a chance to make it better. The problem arises when we start losing faith and when our dreams don’t come true within our desired time frame. We usually tend to forget one thing, ‘All our dreams will come true at the time decided for it to happen. It may not happen when u really want it to happen and maybe, one day it happens all of a sudden and gives you a big surprise !!” Let life surprise you !!!’

We sometimes, lose faith in our beliefs because we get tired of trying. We get the fear of failure and fear of losing what we already have. I feel, ‘If we believe in our dreams and have full faith in ourselves, all our dreams will come true’. Everything in life has a price to pay and even our dream has a price faith to pay. Pay the price and there will be no stopping us.

People survive in life because the fire inside them burns brighter than the fire around them. Fear and faith have one thing in common, they both ask us to believe in something we cannot see. Why does something that we cannot see, bother us? I think we should do what needs to be done and rest will happen on its own. We just need to have faith in our beliefs and courage to wait and face the situation till the time all is what we wanted. Trust me, no metal can be made into a beautiful jewelry without burning it in fire and life is no different, accept it and adapt or forget it and crib about it for the rest of our life.

Let our dreams be stronger than our fears, our actions louder than our words and our faith stronger than our feeling of fear. Fear has two meanings, forget everything and run and face everything and rise. The choice is yours.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia.

I am proud of my heart – It still works !!!!

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Dear Readers,

Life has a habit of teaching us lessons. Sometimes it makes us and sometimes it breaks us to pieces that are hard to make a whole again. The damage caused in the process does have an effect on our future. We stop believing in ourselves, we stop trusting others and we try to close our feelings so much that no one can hurt us anymore. We sometimes don’t let people be close to us because we are too scared to get hurt again and lose others. Even if the opposite person may never hurt us but still our past makes everything judgemental. We are scared because of our past, but how long are we planning to live like this?

People don’t understand one thing,”No wound gets better on its own, it needs medication and care to get better”. If there was bitterness planted with the soil of our feelings, how can we expect love to be the fruit out of it?. The soil needs to be treated with love to get love. No damaged thing has the power to repair itself all by himself, it needs help!

An emotionally damaged person also needs help to get himself to be back to normal. The treatment is exactly how we treat an accident patient. You find the damage, you find out how deep the damage is, you find out what parts of your emotions are hurt, you see if it requires any surgery of drilling the past stories and giving it the right kind of understanding treatment to recover. Then applying medicine to it and take care of the patient so much that the wound does not matter anymore. Sometimes when you try to apply for medicine, it will hurt the patient and may lead her to the day of the accident

I believe,”If we want our past to stop haunting us, we need to have happier memories to cover that”. The more the happier memories, the less we will think about our unhappy past. I know our heart hurts right now, we have no idea what it needs but the people that are close to us know that so please help. You never truly know how damaged the person is unless you try to love them.

Damaged people love you like you are a crime scene before the crime has even been committed. They keep their running shoes beside their soul every night, one eye open in case things change whilst they sleep. Their backs are always tense as though waiting to fight a sudden storm that might engulf them. Because damage people have already seen hell and they understand that every evil demon that exists on there was once a kind angel before it fell.

Guess what, love and support no matter what is the only cure to them and to me. I am proud of my heart that it is still ready to love and smile.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia.