Life is all about convincing yourself that it is okay !!!!

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Dear Readers,

We all make mistakes and we make a lot of them. I believe that is the reason that we are humans or otherwise we would be computers with a perfect solution to all our problems. Life makes you fall, gets you hurt, gives you scar for life and helps you stand on your feet and walk again. This is the pattern of life, you have a sunny day, and then you may see a windy evening, a thunder storming night and again a beautiful sunny morning. What we do with life is, we don’t believe in it’s pattern. We believe once we have lost something, we have lost everything. Once something goes wrong, it means the end of the world. It’s not!!!!! It can never be!!!

It is the end of the world if you die. If you’re reading this, I guess you’re not. Death is the real end of the world but if you’re breathing that means you survived the thunder part of the life pattern and that means you are now a part of it. Life wants to keep the best for the last and somehow with all our problems we are unable to see that, the real big picture.

It’s ok to make mistakes but it is not ok to punish yourself for life. My grandmother always told me,” If you want to achieve something which no one has or you don’t want to be a part of the crowd and you have the courage to stand and face consequences of the situation then you need to do things differently from others. You would have to think differently and still stand strong if things fall apart”.

You should still have the courage to smile and say,” It’s ok if I made a mistake, It’s ok if I made some very bad mistakes and I understand that I was wrong but no one is 100% right. I may be a mess but I can still be loved. The best part about my mistake is that I accept them too with all my good things. I face them every single day with a smile and honesty. I treat them as a part of my learning and it makes my story different than others.

I have convinced myself that it is ok to be how you are because everyone has their own reasons for that. No one wants to do bad things but we do it anyway because we don’t have any other choice or maybe that was the need of the hour. It was the only solution to survive.

I don’t know if doing all of these things has made me a bad person or a good person. All I know is, I am still trying to make my life exactly the way I had always dreamt.

Regards
Swati Chaurasia

Courage or fear?

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Dear Readers,

We sometimes have to make a lot of tough decisions in life where we have to choose people or sides. We always see what is best for that situation. In the process of making those decisions, we do have fear of losing things. We have a fear of losing our families or friends. We fear of losing our image in society. We fear for the unknown future and how it will change with our wrong or right decisions. Fear is not of the unknown but the loss of the known. Sometimes the fear of loss is much greater than the desire to gain.

Why do we have so many fears for our future when we don’t have any control of changing it? Why have we stopped believing that,” Everything that we ever wanted is on the other side of fear”? The fear of loss is an engine of horrors, but also a source of greater forms of heroism. Without fear, there cannot be courage. Courage is not the absence of fear, but it is a reminder that something else is more important than fear. I believe that we have to decide mentally that we are going to have more courage than fear in every situation we encounter.

It is good to have fear but it is bad when it is not letting you develop the courage to take the leap of faith. We are strong enough to face all our problems, even if it does not feel like it right now. With courage, we will dare to take a risk, have the strength to be compassionate and a wisdom to be humble and kind to all. If you don’t fear you can never cherish the importance of it in your life. All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them. Courage is not having the strength to go on, it is going on when you don’t have strength. Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide in favor of, there is always someone to tell you that you’re wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs on a battlefield. Courage is a love affair with the unknown. Make this affair strong as it can lead you miles in just one step.

“What good are the wings without a courage to fly”. Be brave, be strong in any situation that you are into in your life. Life gives up on you when u give up on yourself. It is better to be a lion for a day than a sheep all your life. You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. The strength of happiness is freedom from pain and the secret of freedom is courage.

I choose courage !!! Do you?

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

In every path, there is a puddle !!!

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Dear Readers,

Every path of our lives is accompanied by time and society. Time is the most strange thing that I have known in my entire life. It is not with you when you want it and it is all over you when you want to be alone. Time still plays an important role in all our lives. Time has a tie-up with our lives to provide the construction service for our dreams. In this case, you can hate your service provider but you cannot switch to another. You cannot question time of what is right or wrong in your own life. On top of that society has different stands on what is right or wrong. Time and society are like blood relatives, you can ignore them but you cannot get rid of them ever.

What is right? Does our society really know what’s good for us? Are people around us are trying to understand us or they are just trying to make us think like them? Do people really care for us or they just want us to fit the traditional pattern of society? Being judgemental is now know a new word for caring?

Sometimes the right path is not always the easiest one. Every path has some puddle, don’t let it stop you. There will be society, time or people around you acting as a puddle just to delay your journey. You may fall in the puddle or you may feel that you are in a middle of a soup but time will change it all forever. Will you let them upset you or go puddle jumping? Don’t lead or follow anyone’s path, make your own path and enjoy the ride. A handful of patience will make you cross the puddle. Have faith in time, it will turn around everything for you in just a second. Time is a bitch but everyone has his day.

The world is a mud luscious and puddle is wonderful. There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path, sometimes it’s ok if you don’t know the path but please don’t stop walking. Walk till you find what you wish !!!

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

There is no place for love?

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Dear Readers,

Our fast running metro city life has become so fast that there is no place for innocent emotions. Everyone wants you to run the rat race. There is a set pattern of a life cycle that people around you want you to follow and according to them, that’s the only way to success. If you wish to take any turn differently in your own life, you will be judged. You will be broken so badly that all you will land up with is a broken heart, bad memories which will scar you for life.

Have we come so far that we have no place for love in our lives anymore? Is the innocent emotion like friendship also now the part of the rat race? Are you signing up for being judged along with friendship? Has the fight become part of the deal alone with true love and commitment?

It is said,” Friendship is the one relation that we make in life, rest are God given”. What makes it so special is that it is the only relation where we are truly ourselves without any judgment. The love of a friend is so pure that people cross oceans just to make the other friend happy and smiling. When no one is on our side to help and support, that friend is standing rock solid and is ready to punch everyone on their faces just to make you feel ok. Friends don’t judge you for your mistakes and they also don’t judge you for your decision in life whether it is good or bad. Friends accept you for who you are and not for how the world wants to see you. Where did these feelings go? I somehow should start believing that these feeling and emotions are no longer required as feelings are bull shit and all that matters is the rat race.

I always felt that there are three chambers in our heart God, mom and dad and the love of our life is the heart where everyone lives happily ever after. There is never a time or a place for true love. It just happens accidentally, in a single heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment. When did love start coming alone with fights, judgments, treating opposite person badly and making people cry for keeping them happy? When someone gives everything their life to make you happy then that love needs to be cherished for life. It should not be kept behind the bars and judged for being honest, for being nice, for understanding your situation and intention and for accepting you with your past, present, and future.

What do people that still truly understand only love do in such a world? Love is what they want and they are ready to die for that. I feel there is no place for love and people who still believe in love have to make a new world for themselves. Some of us would have made that space for ourselves and have realized that we are the only one and we have to learn to live alone. We have no choice other than this to live.

We still say. “In all the world there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world there is no love for you like mine”.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

What’s the harm in believing?

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Dear Readers,

Sometimes in life, we just give up. We give up on people, we give up on ourselves and we sometimes give up on hope too and stop believing that someday all will be ok. It is like you are standing on the edge of a cliff and the only thing you can see is dead-end. You are so cornered in life that only thing you can think of is dying or running away. Hope, faith and courage surrender in front of your own eyes and you just stood numb and accepted your defeat. You hate your past, you’re dying in your present and you believe that you have no future.

When universe gave us life, the terms and conditions of the contract never said it will be easy. When something goes wrong why do we start cursing everything around us? When someone breaks our heart why did we feel it is the end of the world? Why do we close ourselves in one box and never want to see the world again? What’s the harm in believing? When you say that your life has touched rock bottom in relationships and love, will a little believe in hope harm it more?

In life, we forget one thing,” Nothing is constant around us, not even our pain”. The best things in life are worth waiting for, fighting for, believing in and just never letting go of just like that. Good things are going to happen and the only thing we should do now is to wait and watch. Love comes to those who still hope after disappointment, who still believe after betrayal and who still love after they have been hurt.

I hope we believe in ourselves as much as love believes in us. Love never lost hope on us, how can we lose hope…..!!! We will soon reach a place in our lives where we feel that we will be ok and that is the biggest part of the battle. We have to believe that we are meant for good more than the bad. Perhaps this may be the moment for which you have been created. Have faith….. It is all about believing, you don’t know how it will happen, but you it will.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

Never Fall In Love !!!

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Dear Readers,

We as an individual dream of a perfect life, a happy ending and what conquers all is love. This thought has been planted with our brains since we started watching fairy tales. We meet the perfect man, fall in love, get married and live happily ever after. In reality, there is nothing to knows as a perfect man, yes we do fall in love, we do get married but I still have dough on the happy ending thing.

What happens when we don’t find that one perfect man? What if love is not enough for a happily ever after? That means we will never get married and land up being single all our lives? I still don’t know how to react to this but in our modern world today love is just like having a burger, you find a burger joint, you try the burger, if you like the taste you become regular customer to the burger joint and when you had enough of the taste and the place, you find a new place to eat. When did love become less love and more materialist adjustment?

There are still some people that really love. They are on the verge of extinction. Soon a time will come when love will be just in the books and we will hear about it in the stories. People really don’t understand that relationship isn’t for taking things. They are for giving things. In real love, we never fall in love to make ourselves happy. We fall in love to make our love happy. It is really getting hard to trust someone when everyone you ever opened your heart of lets you down. It is like you are falling for someone that is not ready to catch you.

Never fall in love, fall off a bridge…. It will hurt you less !!! Even if we fall in love again with someone new, it could never be the same way how it was before. The pain part in love is carried forward to the next love and I hate to tell this but you are never without baggage if your heart was broken. The pain part of love will test you every single day. It will let you dough your decision and make you feel that falling in love is a mistake that you want to make again. Yes, we are human and we want to make the same mistakes again and again, expecting a different result out of it which will never happen. Maybe you are lucky in love…. I am not….

PS: Please don’t fall in love, other than the pain it was nothing to offer.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia.

I am worth it !!!

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Dear Readers,

Happiness is the only thing that I had always been running behind all my life, my family is happy, my partner is happy and my friends are happy and healthy. Nothing more than that I ever wanted in life. To make this happen and to go that extra mile for someone had always been on my priority list. I always feel people whom I love are worth that effort. They are worth being loved and worth being cherished. I love them with all my heart and wish them all the happiness in this world.

This though always makes me wonder, “Am I worth it? Am I good enough that someone would love to travel all the way just to see me smile? Am I worth the shot that someone would love me with no conditions and no regrets? I am not saying I am perfect, in fact, I am far from it but will anyone love me with my imperfections? Will someone wake up every morning and feel that I am worth the fight to be in his life? Still finding the answers to these question and I hope I find the answer someday.

I feel I am worth being loved, I am worth an effort and I am worth being someone’s everything. I don’t chase people anymore. I learned that I am here and I am important. I am not going to run after people to prove that I matter. At the end of the day, I am a good woman. I am not perfect by any means but my intentions are good, my heart is pure and I love hard with everything I got and because of those things I am worth it. Always have been and always will be. If someone could not understand my worth, I am strong enough to walk off. I am silly blunt and broken. My days are sometimes too dark and insane and my nights are sometimes too long to end. I often trip over my own securities and fear of being alone. I require attention, long for passion and a wish to be desired. I use music to speak when words fail me, even though words are as important to me as the air I breathe. I love hard with all that I have…. and even with my faults, I am worth a chance.

I really have no clue why people leave me and go or why people hurt me but next time please gives your best shot. You can break me but you cannot let me down. I will rise again much stronger than before and trust me it will be a treat to watch so wait and I will be back…..

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia