I am proud of my heart – It still works !!!!

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Dear Readers,

Life has a habit of teaching us lessons. Sometimes it makes us and sometimes it breaks us to pieces that are hard to make a whole again. The damage caused in the process does have an effect on our future. We stop believing in ourselves, we stop trusting others and we try to close our feelings so much that no one can hurt us anymore. We sometimes don’t let people be close to us because we are too scared to get hurt again and lose others. Even if the opposite person may never hurt us but still our past makes everything judgemental. We are scared because of our past, but how long are we planning to live like this?

People don’t understand one thing,”No wound gets better on its own, it needs medication and care to get better”. If there was bitterness planted with the soil of our feelings, how can we expect love to be the fruit out of it?. The soil needs to be treated with love to get love. No damaged thing has the power to repair itself all by himself, it needs help!

An emotionally damaged person also needs help to get himself to be back to normal. The treatment is exactly how we treat an accident patient. You find the damage, you find out how deep the damage is, you find out what parts of your emotions are hurt, you see if it requires any surgery of drilling the past stories and giving it the right kind of understanding treatment to recover. Then applying medicine to it and take care of the patient so much that the wound does not matter anymore. Sometimes when you try to apply for medicine, it will hurt the patient and may lead her to the day of the accident

I believe,”If we want our past to stop haunting us, we need to have happier memories to cover that”. The more the happier memories, the less we will think about our unhappy past. I know our heart hurts right now, we have no idea what it needs but the people that are close to us know that so please help. You never truly know how damaged the person is unless you try to love them.

Damaged people love you like you are a crime scene before the crime has even been committed. They keep their running shoes beside their soul every night, one eye open in case things change whilst they sleep. Their backs are always tense as though waiting to fight a sudden storm that might engulf them. Because damage people have already seen hell and they understand that every evil demon that exists on there was once a kind angel before it fell.

Guess what, love and support no matter what is the only cure to them and to me. I am proud of my heart that it is still ready to love and smile.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia.

I want things that money can’t buy !!!

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Dear Readers,

Life of a working class, earn money and satisfy needs and then earn more money and satisfy more needs. With this life we forget one little thing, we have only one life and we have to live it too and the time gone is never going to come back again. Time gone got me thinking, “What if I get the power to roll back in time, I would love to get the time back which I wasted living up to other expectation and would have spent the same time loving myself a little more”. What I mean to say that we forget the real sense of life in our journey.

The most important thing that money can’t buy is love. All my life, I had thought that spending money can even buy love. Yes, it can buy you love but not for a really long time. Love is something which has to be unconditional or it will not be less than a business. 1st time in my life found people worth loving. I have never felt in such peace all my life. You are the luckiest person on earth when you are loved back from the same person you love. I am lucky to have love from my best friends that I love the most. I am lucky to have my parents without whom I cannot even imagine my life. And a love that I had always dreamed of, still not real but maybe someday my fairy tale will come true and I will have a smile on my face which was never seen before all my life.

The money that we earn or the position that we own in our professional life is useless without one person who will smile with us in our success. On the other hand, even if we are not successful we still have that one person by our side to drive us on our journey to success. People say money can buy all, I say love is priceless. No professional position or money can hold it back.

I am 30, single and independent. I am at that position in my life which has made me realized that how someone feels for you has nothing to do with the money that you earn. It has everything to do with how you make the opposite person feel for himself. Love only understands one currency, Love!!! Give love, get love in return and for your info, the interest rates are really good for a fixed deposit for a life time. Good luck!!!

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

Trust is everything in a relationship !!!

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Dear Readers,

There are certain things that we want in our relationships without which the relation has no meaning even if it exists. The most important are trust and honesty part of two people that are together in love. That got me thinking, how honest or open are we with our partners? Do we have to think twice before we open our heart and speak the truth? Are we scared of judgment from our partners?

It is good to have an honest relationship. The truth is the foundation on which every relationship is building. Honesty and openness always lead to a successful relationship. However, any relation is bound to fall apart when you start keeping things to yourself. Secrets don’t destroy things but the suspicions of a secret destroy everything, especially when your suspicions are confirmed. Being honest will never hurt anyone, being a liar hurts only you that is what I feel.

Why do we want to hide the truth from the person who we love so much? Do we want a relation without transparency? I believe, life is too short for all this and we need to understand that hiding and dishonesty are not going to take us anywhere. It is good if our relationship has no boundaries to understand each other. A relation that gives us a platform to express ourselves with the worst way possible and still you can expect,” Darling I know you are mad but it’s ok, I am around you forever to love you and support you”. A person that wants to hold your hands when you are shouting at the top of your voice. A life partner who has the courage to calm you down by giving you your space if needed or hugs you when you’re angry but still his ego does not get hurt or he feels inferior. A soul mate that trusts you with all his heart and is ready to love you no matter what kind of day’s time and future show them in life. An imperfect relationship to an imperfect man and the only way of perfection is with you by his side.

We want sincerity, honesty, truthfulness and transparency in our relationships with the person we love so dearly. We will love them if they give us time and attention. We will love them a lot if they love us and accept us with all our flaws and imperfection. We will love them more and more if they are honest and sincere with us. We will love them more than anything in this world if they are genuine and does not fake anything around us. We will love more than our lives and follow our love till the end of the world if they love us to the core of all their heart and soul.

Advice: In a relationship, don’t try to be perfect. Just be honest.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

Life is all about convincing yourself that it is okay !!!!

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Dear Readers,

We all make mistakes and we make a lot of them. I believe that is the reason that we are humans or otherwise we would be computers with a perfect solution to all our problems. Life makes you fall, gets you hurt, gives you scar for life and helps you stand on your feet and walk again. This is the pattern of life, you have a sunny day, and then you may see a windy evening, a thunder storming night and again a beautiful sunny morning. What we do with life is, we don’t believe in it’s pattern. We believe once we have lost something, we have lost everything. Once something goes wrong, it means the end of the world. It’s not!!!!! It can never be!!!

It is the end of the world if you die. If you’re reading this, I guess you’re not. Death is the real end of the world but if you’re breathing that means you survived the thunder part of the life pattern and that means you are now a part of it. Life wants to keep the best for the last and somehow with all our problems we are unable to see that, the real big picture.

It’s ok to make mistakes but it is not ok to punish yourself for life. My grandmother always told me,” If you want to achieve something which no one has or you don’t want to be a part of the crowd and you have the courage to stand and face consequences of the situation then you need to do things differently from others. You would have to think differently and still stand strong if things fall apart”.

You should still have the courage to smile and say,” It’s ok if I made a mistake, It’s ok if I made some very bad mistakes and I understand that I was wrong but no one is 100% right. I may be a mess but I can still be loved. The best part about my mistake is that I accept them too with all my good things. I face them every single day with a smile and honesty. I treat them as a part of my learning and it makes my story different than others.

I have convinced myself that it is ok to be how you are because everyone has their own reasons for that. No one wants to do bad things but we do it anyway because we don’t have any other choice or maybe that was the need of the hour. It was the only solution to survive.

I don’t know if doing all of these things has made me a bad person or a good person. All I know is, I am still trying to make my life exactly the way I had always dreamt.

Regards
Swati Chaurasia

Courage or fear?

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Dear Readers,

We sometimes have to make a lot of tough decisions in life where we have to choose people or sides. We always see what is best for that situation. In the process of making those decisions, we do have fear of losing things. We have a fear of losing our families or friends. We fear of losing our image in society. We fear for the unknown future and how it will change with our wrong or right decisions. Fear is not of the unknown but the loss of the known. Sometimes the fear of loss is much greater than the desire to gain.

Why do we have so many fears for our future when we don’t have any control of changing it? Why have we stopped believing that,” Everything that we ever wanted is on the other side of fear”? The fear of loss is an engine of horrors, but also a source of greater forms of heroism. Without fear, there cannot be courage. Courage is not the absence of fear, but it is a reminder that something else is more important than fear. I believe that we have to decide mentally that we are going to have more courage than fear in every situation we encounter.

It is good to have fear but it is bad when it is not letting you develop the courage to take the leap of faith. We are strong enough to face all our problems, even if it does not feel like it right now. With courage, we will dare to take a risk, have the strength to be compassionate and a wisdom to be humble and kind to all. If you don’t fear you can never cherish the importance of it in your life. All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them. Courage is not having the strength to go on, it is going on when you don’t have strength. Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide in favor of, there is always someone to tell you that you’re wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs on a battlefield. Courage is a love affair with the unknown. Make this affair strong as it can lead you miles in just one step.

“What good are the wings without a courage to fly”. Be brave, be strong in any situation that you are into in your life. Life gives up on you when u give up on yourself. It is better to be a lion for a day than a sheep all your life. You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. The strength of happiness is freedom from pain and the secret of freedom is courage.

I choose courage !!! Do you?

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

In every path, there is a puddle !!!

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Dear Readers,

Every path of our lives is accompanied by time and society. Time is the most strange thing that I have known in my entire life. It is not with you when you want it and it is all over you when you want to be alone. Time still plays an important role in all our lives. Time has a tie-up with our lives to provide the construction service for our dreams. In this case, you can hate your service provider but you cannot switch to another. You cannot question time of what is right or wrong in your own life. On top of that society has different stands on what is right or wrong. Time and society are like blood relatives, you can ignore them but you cannot get rid of them ever.

What is right? Does our society really know what’s good for us? Are people around us are trying to understand us or they are just trying to make us think like them? Do people really care for us or they just want us to fit the traditional pattern of society? Being judgemental is now know a new word for caring?

Sometimes the right path is not always the easiest one. Every path has some puddle, don’t let it stop you. There will be society, time or people around you acting as a puddle just to delay your journey. You may fall in the puddle or you may feel that you are in a middle of a soup but time will change it all forever. Will you let them upset you or go puddle jumping? Don’t lead or follow anyone’s path, make your own path and enjoy the ride. A handful of patience will make you cross the puddle. Have faith in time, it will turn around everything for you in just a second. Time is a bitch but everyone has his day.

The world is a mud luscious and puddle is wonderful. There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path, sometimes it’s ok if you don’t know the path but please don’t stop walking. Walk till you find what you wish !!!

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

There is no place for love?

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Dear Readers,

Our fast running metro city life has become so fast that there is no place for innocent emotions. Everyone wants you to run the rat race. There is a set pattern of a life cycle that people around you want you to follow and according to them, that’s the only way to success. If you wish to take any turn differently in your own life, you will be judged. You will be broken so badly that all you will land up with is a broken heart, bad memories which will scar you for life.

Have we come so far that we have no place for love in our lives anymore? Is the innocent emotion like friendship also now the part of the rat race? Are you signing up for being judged along with friendship? Has the fight become part of the deal alone with true love and commitment?

It is said,” Friendship is the one relation that we make in life, rest are God given”. What makes it so special is that it is the only relation where we are truly ourselves without any judgment. The love of a friend is so pure that people cross oceans just to make the other friend happy and smiling. When no one is on our side to help and support, that friend is standing rock solid and is ready to punch everyone on their faces just to make you feel ok. Friends don’t judge you for your mistakes and they also don’t judge you for your decision in life whether it is good or bad. Friends accept you for who you are and not for how the world wants to see you. Where did these feelings go? I somehow should start believing that these feeling and emotions are no longer required as feelings are bull shit and all that matters is the rat race.

I always felt that there are three chambers in our heart God, mom and dad and the love of our life is the heart where everyone lives happily ever after. There is never a time or a place for true love. It just happens accidentally, in a single heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment. When did love start coming alone with fights, judgments, treating opposite person badly and making people cry for keeping them happy? When someone gives everything their life to make you happy then that love needs to be cherished for life. It should not be kept behind the bars and judged for being honest, for being nice, for understanding your situation and intention and for accepting you with your past, present, and future.

What do people that still truly understand only love do in such a world? Love is what they want and they are ready to die for that. I feel there is no place for love and people who still believe in love have to make a new world for themselves. Some of us would have made that space for ourselves and have realized that we are the only one and we have to learn to live alone. We have no choice other than this to live.

We still say. β€œIn all the world there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world there is no love for you like mine”.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia