We a lot of time think that “Why do we don’t get honest people around us to speak the truth on our face”. This is because of it too hard, to be honest sometimes. Sometimes it is in our throat and still, we just let it go. The sad part is we don’t even want to regret about it and we say, “It’s ok, it’s not important that she should know about it”
This is one thing I want to say to all who read it, “Honesty is the only thing that any relation is based on and if the base is not strong the building will fall”.
“Have you finished that report I need?” my boss asked me. “I’m nearly done with it. I’ll give it to you by end of day tomorrow,” I replied. The report wasn’t late and he would indeed get it by the end of the following day. The problem was that I wasn’t being honest. I said I was nearly done, when
In fact, I’d barely started. It was just a harmless little white lie that came out almost like a reflex, like an involuntary response. I didn’t say it to mislead my boss; I said it so I wouldn’t Look like a fool in front of him. It was self-preservation. There’s no harm in that… Is there? Being honest is tougher to do than most people think. With no intention of misleading people, we tell little white lies nearly every day. Sometimes we tell a little fib to protect ourselves, like the example above, and sometimes we do it to be polite or to avoid offending someone.
For example, your friend comes up to you at his wedding and asks: “Isn’t this the best wedding ever?” In reality, the food was bland, the band sucked and there was construction going on next door. But we still say: “Yes! It’s excellent.” This, by any standard, is a complete lie!
What would happen if lying were the norm? Spouses wouldn’t be able to trust one another; leaders wouldn’t be credible, and the news would be meaningless. Everything and I mean everything, depends on honesty. That’s why it’s so critical to tell the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
The truth is . . . we can’t build relationships if we mistrust what friends say; we won’t follow leaders if we mistrust what they do, and we can’t make good decisions if we doubt the accuracy of the information that we receive. Absent truth, instead of taking action, we’d spend our time looking over other people’s shoulders, second-guessing their intent, and unraveling the facts from the falsehoods. The result is that trust is shattered, reputations are damaged, and suspicion rules the day.
So, why do people lie? The reasons are countless. People lie to make themselves look better, steal the credit, cover up poor performance, conceal mistakes, deflect the blame, protect their reputations, and deceive and manipulate people. Regardless of the motive, the ultimate results are the same. As someone once said, “The worst thing about being lied to knows you’re not worth the truth.”
So readers here are some common forms of dishonesty that masquerade as acceptable behavior: Misrepresentation: Distorting facts to consciously mislead or create a false impression. Spinning the truth, presenting opinion as fact, and using revisionist thinking or euphemisms to masquerade the truth are all forms of misrepresentation.
Omission: Leaving out key information to intentionally deceive someone. As Benjamin Franklin said, “Half the truth is often a great lie.”
Fabrication: Deliberately inventing an untruth or spreading a falsehood such as gossip or a rumor.
Exaggeration: Stretching the truth to give a more favorable impression.
Denial: Refusing to acknowledge the truth or to accept responsibility for a mistake or falsehood that was made.
Lack of transparency: Withholding information knowing that full disclosure will have negative consequences.
Redirection: Deflecting blame to another person to prevent personal embarrassment or responsibility.
False recognition: Stealing the credit for someone else’s hard-earned success.
Broken promise: Making a promise with no intention of keeping it.
Cover-up: Protecting the misdeeds of others. Those who provide cover for the misdeeds of others are as guilty as those who perpetrate the “crime.”
Hypocrisy: Saying one thing and consciously doing another. When words don’t match actions, someone is being dishonest with others or themselves.
Bait and switch: Attracting someone with an exciting offer only to divert them to an inferior deal.
Living a lie: Pretending that you are something you’re not.
Just trust me on this,” “The truth doesn’t cost anything, but a lie could cost you everything.”
Truth Be Told: The value of honesty cannot be overstated. Every time someone lies, alarm bells aren’t going to go off and that person’s nose isn’t going to get larger, but something definitely happens. The liar may suspect that the only reason the customer said, “Yes” to his proposal, the only way she dodged the blame, and the only reason the recipient of the lie thought highly of him or she was due to the lie itself. The question remains: Even though they fooled someone else, how do liars feel about themselves? The obvious truth is that they thought they didn’t deserve the outcome or else they would have told the truth in the first place. They may explain away the lie by telling themselves that everybody does it or that the lie fell in a gray area. But I must ask you, is that any way to live your life?
When you stand for honesty, you believe in yourself and everything you represent. When you stand for honesty, everything you say carries the voice of credibility. But, when you’re dishonest, your soiled reputation will do the speaking for you.
Life is not worth living with all the lies around.