We are always scared of people’s judgement. How will the people around us, react to our decisions. Will they accept us or not? To make them accept us we lie about our feelings and pretend to be something we are not. I don’t know whether it is right or not but it helps us to be accepted. How can we really know something is right? I couldn’t help but wonder, is it right to live for yourself or is it right to live for others?
As a child, I was always taught that we should do things for others and we should keep the need of our loved ones, ahead of ours. But have we thought to ourselves, can the opposite person do the same for us? Will the opposite person help in our time of need. When we are at our lowest with no help in sight. If in a similar situation, will we be considered selfish if we think for ourselves.
To my experience, we are none the wiser to understand or decide what’s right and what’s not, unless we put ourselves in the same shoes. Things that have worked for me may not work for others and vice versa. So we are no one to judge or jump to conclusions.
I am a strong believer of Karma. And it can be a bitch more often than not. What goes around, comes around always. In the whole karma cycle, your intentions are the only things that matter the most. If your intentions are clean, nothing bad will ever come to you and Karma too will be on your side. But if you intend to hurt someone or bring pain to someone then Karma will be your worst nightmare. It might have a slow reaction but it will eventually reach you and when it does, it will burn everything in sight! And no surgery will be able to help you.
Things might not be as you expected, but it doesn’t mean that you can hurt someone and get what you want. There’s no shortcut to a happy life. You have to walk through shards of glasses to reach the garden of roses. If your mind is fixated on happiness then none of this will even matter. Someone great once said, sometimes when losing a battle, you find a new way to win the war. And like a soldier, we should always keep moving forward towards happiness and peace. And who doesn’t love peace?
PS: People who’ve already judged, lied to or hurt others without thinking, karma is right on your tail and you’re next!!!!
Have you been that person in life who has always cared about others feelings first? Have you not judged and respected everyone’s feelings? Have you always had an approach to understanding everyone out of the box? Have you always forgiven everyone who hurt you even if they have hurt you like a million times? Have you been hard on yourself just to make the opposite person happy and never expressed it at all? Have you kept your feelings to yourself just to avoid fights? Has your life been only about giving everything that you had? I guess no one ever understood why you do this, right?
In the process of making the world a better place some people just tend to forget themselves. It is so hard for them to step up and say,” What you said, hurt me, it’s not my fault and I don’t deserve this”. It is because they have been through a lot in life and a small amount of happiness means a lot even if it comes with a lot of compromises. They don’t want to miss out on any happiness even if it costs them their whole life. They are ok to let go of their anger, ego, attitude, self-esteem, and self-respect in order to be truly happy just for a few moments.
We don’t understand that everyone deserves better. Just that people that deserve don’t give up on people that they love. This quality should not be taken for granted. The problem is not with the person that took you for granted, the problem is yourself. You made excuses for their bad behavior, you accepted their obvious lies and you gave them another chance, again and again. You sold yourself for less, you did not believe you deserved better and you stayed too long. You learned the hard way, but you learned. You heart finally told you to stop wasting time. You deserve that love that you keep trying to give to everyone else. Never settle for shitty coffee, shitty friends or shitty men.
I told myself today that I deserve better. Maybe one day I will believe it.
Life always gives you a chance to live a better life. It also gives you a chance to make it better. The problem arises when we start losing faith and when our dreams don’t come true within our desired time frame. We usually tend to forget one thing, ‘All our dreams will come true at the time decided for it to happen. It may not happen when u really want it to happen and maybe, one day it happens all of a sudden and gives you a big surprise !!” Let life surprise you !!!’
We sometimes, lose faith in our beliefs because we get tired of trying. We get the fear of failure and fear of losing what we already have. I feel, ‘If we believe in our dreams and have full faith in ourselves, all our dreams will come true’. Everything in life has a price to pay and even our dream has a price faith to pay. Pay the price and there will be no stopping us.
People survive in life because the fire inside them burns brighter than the fire around them. Fear and faith have one thing in common, they both ask us to believe in something we cannot see. Why does something that we cannot see, bother us? I think we should do what needs to be done and rest will happen on its own. We just need to have faith in our beliefs and courage to wait and face the situation till the time all is what we wanted. Trust me, no metal can be made into a beautiful jewelry without burning it in fire and life is no different, accept it and adapt or forget it and crib about it for the rest of our life.
Let our dreams be stronger than our fears, our actions louder than our words and our faith stronger than our feeling of fear. Fear has two meanings, forget everything and run and face everything and rise. The choice is yours.
There are certain things that we want in our relationships without which the relation has no meaning even if it exists. The most important are trust and honesty part of two people that are together in love. That got me thinking, how honest or open are we with our partners? Do we have to think twice before we open our heart and speak the truth? Are we scared of judgment from our partners?
It is good to have an honest relationship. The truth is the foundation on which every relationship is building. Honesty and openness always lead to a successful relationship. However, any relation is bound to fall apart when you start keeping things to yourself. Secrets don’t destroy things but the suspicions of a secret destroy everything, especially when your suspicions are confirmed. Being honest will never hurt anyone, being a liar hurts only you that is what I feel.
Why do we want to hide the truth from the person who we love so much? Do we want a relation without transparency? I believe, life is too short for all this and we need to understand that hiding and dishonesty are not going to take us anywhere. It is good if our relationship has no boundaries to understand each other. A relation that gives us a platform to express ourselves with the worst way possible and still you can expect,” Darling I know you are mad but it’s ok, I am around you forever to love you and support you”. A person that wants to hold your hands when you are shouting at the top of your voice. A life partner who has the courage to calm you down by giving you your space if needed or hugs you when you’re angry but still his ego does not get hurt or he feels inferior. A soul mate that trusts you with all his heart and is ready to love you no matter what kind of day’s time and future show them in life. An imperfect relationship to an imperfect man and the only way of perfection is with you by his side.
We want sincerity, honesty, truthfulness and transparency in our relationships with the person we love so dearly. We will love them if they give us time and attention. We will love them a lot if they love us and accept us with all our flaws and imperfection. We will love them more and more if they are honest and sincere with us. We will love them more than anything in this world if they are genuine and does not fake anything around us. We will love more than our lives and follow our love till the end of the world if they love us to the core of all their heart and soul.
Advice: In a relationship, don’t try to be perfect. Just be honest.
We sometimes have to make a lot of tough decisions in life where we have to choose people or sides. We always see what is best for that situation. In the process of making those decisions, we do have fear of losing things. We have a fear of losing our families or friends. We fear of losing our image in society. We fear for the unknown future and how it will change with our wrong or right decisions. Fear is not of the unknown but the loss of the known. Sometimes the fear of loss is much greater than the desire to gain.
Why do we have so many fears for our future when we don’t have any control of changing it? Why have we stopped believing that,” Everything that we ever wanted is on the other side of fear”? The fear of loss is an engine of horrors, but also a source of greater forms of heroism. Without fear, there cannot be courage. Courage is not the absence of fear, but it is a reminder that something else is more important than fear. I believe that we have to decide mentally that we are going to have more courage than fear in every situation we encounter.
It is good to have fear but it is bad when it is not letting you develop the courage to take the leap of faith. We are strong enough to face all our problems, even if it does not feel like it right now. With courage, we will dare to take a risk, have the strength to be compassionate and a wisdom to be humble and kind to all. If you don’t fear you can never cherish the importance of it in your life. All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them. Courage is not having the strength to go on, it is going on when you don’t have strength. Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide in favor of, there is always someone to tell you that you’re wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs on a battlefield. Courage is a love affair with the unknown. Make this affair strong as it can lead you miles in just one step.
“What good are the wings without a courage to fly”. Be brave, be strong in any situation that you are into in your life. Life gives up on you when u give up on yourself. It is better to be a lion for a day than a sheep all your life. You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. The strength of happiness is freedom from pain and the secret of freedom is courage.
I choose courage !!! Do you?
In 30 years of my life I have learned one lesson,” Nothing in life comes to us on its own, either you have to make it work or you would have to snatch it from someone and make it your own. There are very few people in this world who are born with a happy go lucky life. I am sure I am not the one to say the same thing. Nothing in my life had ever been that easy to get. I don’t feel bad about it because life has always given me choice,” To make a change and let everyone decides for me or to be the change and make my own decisions”. Everyone around me wanted me to feel bad about myself and live with it and I choose to be happy. I choose to be a happy soul in this bad world.
To this journey of being a happy soul, I sometimes had to be a badass and fight for what I wanted. People told me to go left and I always wanted to go right and do the exact opposite. I had never been that person who makes decisions based on other experience. I am the one who wanted my own experience and wanted to taste the pain or happiness all by myself. I wanted it to be a part of my experience before I comment on anyone or anything. I have never made friends listening to my other friend’s experience; I have made all my friends as per my experience with them. It may have been good or bad but I made sure that I learned some lesson from every person. I feel life is about knowing different kinds of people.
Life and people always told me to sit back and relax and I was always in the fight mode making things right around me. I had always lived for other and had been unhappy, today I live for myself and I am happy. If you are unhappy in your life then I feel you’re responsible for it and only you have a choice to change it. If you cannot make that choice then please don’t crib about it because the control is still in your hands.
I always had one rule in life,” Choose the things in life that can make you happy and doesn’t hurt any human on its way”. All my decisions are based on that and I am happy I had that rule because it had always stood me for being a good person. It is like I am ready to take all damage in my life but I cannot tolerate even one starch in any bodies life because of me. My happiness should not kill anyone’s happiness.
I am a badass with a good heart and I have never ever hurt anyone on my way of living my life as per my rules. Today I am a person with a very happy soul and face any challenge with a smile on my face. I am living my life….. Are you?
I have always wondered what it is like to be a man. You can wear what you want, you can do what you want, you are the 1st priority in the family as you earn for the family. You choose the girl to marry and give her a life. You are her need to survive in life. My point is,” A wives life revolves around a man all her life”. It kept me thinking about myself that what kind of woman am I,” A woman that need a man or woman that a man needs?”
I feel I am not the princess that needs saving, I am a queen and I got this shit handled. I am not someone who can be controlled. I want someone who will watch me do my thing and be like,” That’s my girl”. I somehow believe in the fact,” A weak man cannot love a strong woman. He won’t know what to do with her”. Of course, I am not worried about intimidating men. The type of man who will be intimidated by me is the exactly the type of man I have no interest in. Funny thing about a real woman,” They don’t need you, they want you and if you start slacking they can be content without you”. A strong woman will automatically stop trying if she feels unwanted. She won’t fix it or beg she will just walk away.
I am a woman. I am not perfect. I am sometimes selfish. Occasionally self-destructive and prone to very brief, yet severe, spells of sadness. But I would fight until every bone in my body was broken to protect my loved once and that’s a promise. I need no fancy clothes to make me look sexy. I need no man by my side to make me look sturdy. I don’t need to tell lies, my honesty is my beauty. I am smart in my head and have a lot of courage in my heart. I have confidence with-in myself and I am compassionate in my thoughts. I am independent, able, strong and graceful in any situation life shows me.
In life, sometimes you will just be too much woman, too smart, too beautiful, too strong, too much of something. That makes a man feel like a less of a man. Will start making you feel like you have to be a less of a woman. The biggest mistake you can make is removing jewels from your crown to make it easier for a man to carry. When it happens, I need you to understand, you do not need a smaller crown…… You need a man with bigger hands.
“Dear woman, you don’t find your worth in a man. You find your worth within yourself and then find a man who’s worthy of you. Remember that.”