Let your faith be bigger than your fears !!!

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Dear Readers,

Life always gives you a chance to live a better life. It also gives you a chance to make it better. The problem arises when we start losing faith and when our dreams donโ€™t come true within our desired time frame. We usually tend to forget one thing, ‘All our dreams will come true at the time decided for it to happen. It may not happen when u really want it to happen and maybe, one day it happens all of a sudden and gives you a big surprise !!โ€ Let life surprise you !!!’

We sometimes, lose faith in our beliefs because we get tired of trying. We get the fear of failure and fear of losing what we already have. I feel, ‘If we believe in our dreams and have full faith in ourselves, all our dreams will come true’. Everything in life has a price to pay and even our dream has a price faith to pay. Pay the price and there will be no stopping us.

People survive in life because the fire inside them burns brighter than the fire around them. Fear and faith have one thing in common, they both ask us to believe in something we cannot see. Why does something that we cannot see, bother us? I think we should do what needs to be done and rest will happen on its own. We just need to have faith in our beliefs and courage to wait and face the situation till the time all is what we wanted. Trust me, no metal can be made into a beautiful jewelry without burning it in fire and life is no different, accept it and adapt or forget it and crib about it for the rest of our life.

Let our dreams be stronger than our fears, our actions louder than our words and our faith stronger than our feeling of fear. Fear has two meanings, forget everything and run and face everything and rise. The choice is yours.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia.

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Trust is everything in a relationship !!!

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Dear Readers,

There are certain things that we want in our relationships without which the relation has no meaning even if it exists. The most important are trust and honesty part of two people that are together in love. That got me thinking, how honest or open are we with our partners? Do we have to think twice before we open our heart and speak the truth? Are we scared of judgment from our partners?

It is good to have an honest relationship. The truth is the foundation on which every relationship is building. Honesty and openness always lead to a successful relationship. However, any relation is bound to fall apart when you start keeping things to yourself. Secrets don’t destroy things but the suspicions of a secret destroy everything, especially when your suspicions are confirmed. Being honest will never hurt anyone, being a liar hurts only you that is what I feel.

Why do we want to hide the truth from the person who we love so much? Do we want a relation without transparency? I believe, life is too short for all this and we need to understand that hiding and dishonesty are not going to take us anywhere. It is good if our relationship has no boundaries to understand each other. A relation that gives us a platform to express ourselves with the worst way possible and still you can expect,” Darling I know you are mad but it’s ok, I am around you forever to love you and support you”. A person that wants to hold your hands when you are shouting at the top of your voice. A life partner who has the courage to calm you down by giving you your space if needed or hugs you when youโ€™re angry but still his ego does not get hurt or he feels inferior. A soul mate that trusts you with all his heart and is ready to love you no matter what kind of dayโ€™s time and future show them in life. An imperfect relationship to an imperfect man and the only way of perfection is with you by his side.

We want sincerity, honesty, truthfulness and transparency in our relationships with the person we love so dearly. We will love them if they give us time and attention. We will love them a lot if they love us and accept us with all our flaws and imperfection. We will love them more and more if they are honest and sincere with us. We will love them more than anything in this world if they are genuine and does not fake anything around us. We will love more than our lives and follow our love till the end of the world if they love us to the core of all their heart and soul.

Advice: In a relationship, don’t try to be perfect. Just be honest.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

Life is all about convincing yourself that it is okay !!!!

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Dear Readers,

We all make mistakes and we make a lot of them. I believe that is the reason that we are humans or otherwise we would be computers with a perfect solution to all our problems. Life makes you fall, gets you hurt, gives you scar for life and helps you stand on your feet and walk again. This is the pattern of life, you have a sunny day, and then you may see a windy evening, a thunder storming night and again a beautiful sunny morning. What we do with life is, we don’t believe in it’s pattern. We believe once we have lost something, we have lost everything. Once something goes wrong, it means the end of the world. It’s not!!!!! It can never be!!!

It is the end of the world if you die. If youโ€™re reading this, I guess youโ€™re not. Death is the real end of the world but if youโ€™re breathing that means you survived the thunder part of the life pattern and that means you are now a part of it. Life wants to keep the best for the last and somehow with all our problems we are unable to see that, the real big picture.

It’s ok to make mistakes but it is not ok to punish yourself for life. My grandmother always told me,” If you want to achieve something which no one has or you don’t want to be a part of the crowd and you have the courage to stand and face consequences of the situation then you need to do things differently from others. You would have to think differently and still stand strong if things fall apart”.

You should still have the courage to smile and say,” It’s ok if I made a mistake, It’s ok if I made some very bad mistakes and I understand that I was wrong but no one is 100% right. I may be a mess but I can still be loved. The best part about my mistake is that I accept them too with all my good things. I face them every single day with a smile and honesty. I treat them as a part of my learning and it makes my story different than others.

I have convinced myself that it is ok to be how you are because everyone has their own reasons for that. No one wants to do bad things but we do it anyway because we don’t have any other choice or maybe that was the need of the hour. It was the only solution to survive.

I don’t know if doing all of these things has made me a bad person or a good person. All I know is, I am still trying to make my life exactly the way I had always dreamt.

Regards
Swati Chaurasia

Courage or fear?

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Dear Readers,

We sometimes have to make a lot of tough decisions in life where we have to choose people or sides. We always see what is best for that situation. In the process of making those decisions, we do have fear of losing things. We have a fear of losing our families or friends. We fear of losing our image in society. We fear for the unknown future and how it will change with our wrong or right decisions. Fear is not of the unknown but the loss of the known. Sometimes the fear of loss is much greater than the desire to gain.

Why do we have so many fears for our future when we don’t have any control of changing it? Why have we stopped believing that,” Everything that we ever wanted is on the other side of fear”? The fear of loss is an engine of horrors, but also a source of greater forms of heroism. Without fear, there cannot be courage. Courage is not the absence of fear, but it is a reminder that something else is more important than fear. I believe that we have to decide mentally that we are going to have more courage than fear in every situation we encounter.

It is good to have fear but it is bad when it is not letting you develop the courage to take the leap of faith. We are strong enough to face all our problems, even if it does not feel like it right now. With courage, we will dare to take a risk, have the strength to be compassionate and a wisdom to be humble and kind to all. If you don’t fear you can never cherish the importance of it in your life. All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them. Courage is not having the strength to go on, it is going on when you don’t have strength. Whatever you do, you need courage. Whatever course you decide in favor of, there is always someone to tell you that you’re wrong. There are always difficulties arising that tempt you to believe your critics are right. To map out a course of action and follow it to an end requires some of the same courage that a soldier needs on a battlefield. Courage is a love affair with the unknown. Make this affair strong as it can lead you miles in just one step.

“What good are the wings without a courage to fly”. Be brave, be strong in any situation that you are into in your life. Life gives up on you when u give up on yourself. It is better to be a lion for a day than a sheep all your life. You cannot discover new oceans unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore. The strength of happiness is freedom from pain and the secret of freedom is courage.

I choose courage !!! Do you?

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

In every path, there is a puddle !!!

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Dear Readers,

Every path of our lives is accompanied by time and society. Time is the most strange thing that I have known in my entire life. It is not with you when you want it and it is all over you when you want to be alone. Time still plays an important role in all our lives. Time has a tie-up with our lives to provide the construction service for our dreams. In this case, you can hate your service provider but you cannot switch to another. You cannot question time of what is right or wrong in your own life. On top of that society has different stands on what is right or wrong. Time and society are like blood relatives, you can ignore them but you cannot get rid of them ever.

What is right? Does our society really know what’s good for us? Are people around us are trying to understand us or they are just trying to make us think like them? Do people really care for us or they just want us to fit the traditional pattern of society? Being judgemental is now know a new word for caring?

Sometimes the right path is not always the easiest one. Every path has some puddle, don’t let it stop you. There will be society, time or people around you acting as a puddle just to delay your journey. You may fall in the puddle or you may feel that you are in a middle of a soup but time will change it all forever. Will you let them upset you or go puddle jumping? Don’t lead or follow anyone’s path, make your own path and enjoy the ride. A handful of patience will make you cross the puddle. Have faith in time, it will turn around everything for you in just a second. Time is a bitch but everyone has his day.

The world is a mud luscious and puddle is wonderful. There is a difference between knowing the path and walking the path, sometimes it’s ok if you don’t know the path but please don’t stop walking. Walk till you find what you wish !!!

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

I am worth it !!!

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Dear Readers,

Happiness is the only thing that I had always been running behind all my life, my family is happy, my partner is happy and my friends are happy and healthy. Nothing more than that I ever wanted in life. To make this happen and to go that extra mile for someone had always been on my priority list. I always feel people whom I love are worth that effort. They are worth being loved and worth being cherished. I love them with all my heart and wish them all the happiness in this world.

This though always makes me wonder, โ€œAm I worth it? Am I good enough that someone would love to travel all the way just to see me smile? Am I worth the shot that someone would love me with no conditions and no regrets? I am not saying I am perfect, in fact, I am far from it but will anyone love me with my imperfections? Will someone wake up every morning and feel that I am worth the fight to be in his life? Still finding the answers to these question and I hope I find the answer someday.

I feel I am worth being loved, I am worth an effort and I am worth being someone’s everything. I don’t chase people anymore. I learned that I am here and I am important. I am not going to run after people to prove that I matter. At the end of the day, I am a good woman. I am not perfect by any means but my intentions are good, my heart is pure and I love hard with everything I got and because of those things I am worth it. Always have been and always will be. If someone could not understand my worth, I am strong enough to walk off. I am silly blunt and broken. My days are sometimes too dark and insane and my nights are sometimes too long to end. I often trip over my own securities and fear of being alone. I require attention, long for passion and a wish to be desired. I use music to speak when words fail me, even though words are as important to me as the air I breathe. I love hard with all that I have…. and even with my faults, I am worth a chance.

I really have no clue why people leave me and go or why people hurt me but next time please gives your best shot. You can break me but you cannot let me down. I will rise again much stronger than before and trust me it will be a treat to watch so wait and I will be back…..

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

I need a good man not a stupid marriage !!!

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Dear Readers,

A girl always dreams of a perfect marriage with a perfect man and live happily ever after. I too always wish for a family and a man who loves me more than anyone in this world. In an Indian society, 30 and not marriage is a crime made by a girl and she is royally punished for that by all her relatives. She is like one alien in the family who is always cornered and pushed to get married. A girl’s life is never easy but it does not end here, she has to satisfy all the family members all her life and live up to everyone’s expectation. We are girls, not a machine who is just born to cook food and listen to others instruction. We do have our own brains to use and we know what is right and wrong for us.

I believe no one in this world wants to live alone. Everyone is looking for the one who is just like a warm breeze who fills your life with love and support. Who melts your heart with his every move? I am sure even man does have the same kind of expectation from a partner. If we both expect the same thing then why do some men just fucked up with their ego and attitude? Do we even have to marry ego and attitude alone with the groom? Do we have to marry egoist and judgmental attitude of the family? Why do we really marry ……. we marry to have a partner in life who can take care of us with us. Someone who just so understanding that even a slight look of sadness on our face will tell him the whole story of what went wrong. A person who will just hold your hand and will ask for nothing in return from you. Trust me this kind of people are still around us but we miss them by wasting our time on a man who does not even care why we cry.

I am 30, single and Indian and I face this every single day. I am successful and working in a good company. People who know me or talk to me cannot even make out that I have come all this way all by myself. I have never considered any work small and respect everyone who burns blood to earn bread for his family. I am a strong woman and I know too much to go back and pretend. I feel I can do much more than just a wife in life. All society can see is a 30-year-old single woman who should get married as she should not live a life without a man. I don’t want the stupid marriage; I need a good man who loves me for who I am without changing me. He respects me and my work.

I am ready to be married but I am not ready for a man who feels that being a man is putting a woman down below her feet. Marriage is a partnership where both partners are equal and if that is not the case in any marriage than it is a relationship between a servant and his boss. Your job is to listen and obey orders. I am capable even of giving orders when it comes to my respect.

I am a woman who has always been the change and I just have one question,” Is this society ready to accept me I am and treat me like a man?”

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia.