Standing In the Ring Alone !!!!

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Dear Readers,

Relationships are supposed to be equal to everything. Equal when you fight, equal when it comes to working at home and fair to both partners but that is not the reality. The relationship really is like between a boss and a subordinate, the boss is the one that has the right to make any number of mistakes and should have no consequences and on the other hand subordinate should not react to any wrongdoing of the boss and behave as if nothing happened at all. I am sure we all have been in the above state, crying out loud from your heart and smiling at the face.

When we commit to any relationship we wish that our partner respects us, they support us in whatever we want to say or do, hold us when we are falling apart because of the worries of the world, keeps their worries aside when they see that the person that they love has not smiled for months, understands us when no one understood but I guess it is all just a dream and dreams don’t come true to some cases. Does this mean we have no hope of a life that we have dreamed our entire life, a dream of a non- perfect but still perfect for me relationship? Hope does not let anything die without a fight and we should never stop fighting for our life.

Sometimes it is time to help yourself, Nothing in the world can be the end of your world. No human has the courage to finish you unless and until they literally kill you. Stay away from people that can’t take responsibility for their actions and who makes you feel bad for being angry at them when they do you wrong. Stop trying to change someone who does not want to change. Stop giving chances to someone who abuses you and your forgiveness. Stop walking back to the same place where your heart ran away from. Stop trusting their words, and ignoring their actions. Stop giving your all to the person that gives you nothing. Stop fighting for a relationship when you are standing in the ring alone. Stop breaking your own lovely heart. Not fair for you !!!

They don’t deserve you if they can’t do their part right. Know your worth and know that you deserve to least be met halfway. If they don’t match your efforts they should not be in your life. At your absolute best, you still won’t be good enough for the wrong person. At your worst, you will still be worth it to the right person. If there is even a slight chance of getting something that will make you happy, risk it. life is too short and happiness is too rare. Love yourself !!!

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

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For Those Who Judge…

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Dear Readers,

We are always scared of people’s judgement. How will the people around us, react to our decisions. Will they accept us or not? To make them accept us we lie about our feelings and pretend to be something we are not. I don’t know whether it is right or not but it helps us to be accepted. How can we really know something is right? I couldn’t help but wonder, is it right to live for yourself or is it right to live for others?

As a child, I was always taught that we should do things for others and we should keep the need of our loved ones, ahead of ours. But have we thought to ourselves, can the opposite person do the same for us? Will the opposite person help in our time of need. When we are at our lowest with no help in sight. If in a similar situation, will we be considered selfish if we think for ourselves.

To my experience, we are none the wiser to understand or decide what’s right and what’s not, unless we put ourselves in the same shoes. Things that have worked for me may not work for others and vice versa. So we are no one to judge or jump to conclusions.

I am a strong believer of Karma. And it can be a bitch more often than not. What goes around, comes around always. In the whole karma cycle, your intentions are the only things that matter the most. If your intentions are clean, nothing bad will ever come to you and Karma too will be on your side. But if you intend to hurt someone or bring pain to someone then Karma will be your worst nightmare. It might have a slow reaction but it will eventually reach you and when it does, it will burn everything in sight! And no surgery will be able to help you.

Things might not be as you expected, but it doesn’t mean that you can hurt someone and get what you want. There’s no shortcut to a happy life. You have to walk through shards of glasses to reach the garden of roses. If your mind is fixated on happiness then none of this will even matter. Someone great once said, sometimes when losing a battle, you find a new way to win the war. And like a soldier, we should always keep moving forward towards happiness and peace. And who doesn’t love peace?

PS: People who’ve already judged, lied to or hurt others without thinking, karma is right on your tail and you’re next!!!!

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

Tomorrow Will Change Everything !!!

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Dear Readers,

Last day of the year got me thinking of how this year had made me hit rock bottom and top high at the same time. The constant thing was that I never gave up. Life has a funny way of saying things and me, on the other hand, had started smiling at it. Somehow all the up’s and down’s had made me stronger than I had ever felt before. With all things going around me, I still was calm and composed. When someone goes through a tough phase in there lives, they would lose themselves on the way and may land up doing something they never wanted to do but in my case, it becomes more and more clear what I actually wanted and how I want to complete my story.

Tomorrow will change everything that happened to your present and give you a better future. The most difficult times are seen by the people that have the strongest will of smiling no matter what comes in their way. Quitting is not part of their blood and fighting for what is right is their only motto. They always know,” Life is messy and you may feel you lost everything and there is no coming back from it but if we have not done anything bad to anyone nothing bad is going to happen to you”. People who have done bad, guys Karma is a bitch !!!! She will come and grab you by the balls and throw you in the deep darkest hole and there is something known as “Full Stop” which will be your whole life (This is true and I have seen this happen).

I really want to thank life for making me the Chosen one. I did not know I could be this. The Women I was yesterday introduced to the women I am today, which makes me very excited about the meeting the women I will be tomorrow. I was a believer that I was born to be broken and had no right to have a life what I have today. Half of my pain was because I am a girl and I have a mouth to speak. To be honest even I never believed that I deserve better but one thought changed my whole life,” If I am not happy, something is really wrong and the truth is told, I have a right to be happy no matter what people say”. So I started working on what made me happy rather than making others happy. After 4 years here I am, not perfect but happy. Things around me still are not good but I am still happy because I know tomorrow will change everything. I deserve a life that I wished and I will never stop working towards it.

It is a New Year !! A New Beginning and an End to all the bad things!!!! So what you do today can change all the tomorrows of your life !!! Someday everything will make sense, so, for now, laugh at all confusions, smile through the tears, keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason !!! I know it is scary buy everything you have ever wanted is on the other side of fear !!! Be strong because things will get better. It may be stormy now, but it never rains forever !!! Takes one day at a time. Today, after all, is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday !!! Worrying about something you can’t change will forever be the biggest waste of your time !!! So just Smile !!! Happy New Year !!!

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

My Life My Rules !!!!

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Dear Readers,

In life, we spend too many time thinking of what others will think of us. We just want to fit in a place where at every step we take we will be judged. We are always surrounded by a million hands that want to put us down and show us how they are better than us. We are so dominated by the rules of the society that we have no courage to speak our heart. All our feeling, dreams, hope, and desires are crushing to death in our own head and we are not allowed saying that out loud. Is this the kind of life that we wished for? Is it fair to live like this?

People around us have a habbit of satisfying their ego and broken self-esteem by pushing us into a well where we feel worthless. If we don’t reply to this crap then the only thing we are doing wrong is hurting ourselves. Work on being in love with the person in the mirror who has been through so much but still standing. Not fair to him right?

We know our story much better than the people that sit us and judge. We know who we are and we know how our journey has changed our lives. Our Experiences have tough us to keep our patients and always do the right thing. We like who we are today and we love the fact that in spite of so much going on around us, we made it this far with a smile. Not all people can do that. It takes a lot of courage to come this far without support. We have the right to do what we want.

So people that have no other work other than judging us, get off our backs and deal with it. It’s our life and we are the one that will make the rules. We lived, we loved, we lost, we missed, we have been hurt, we trusted, we made a lot of mistakes but most of all we still love our lives. You may know our names but you still don’t know our story. You have heard what we have done but you still don’t know what we have been through.

My life, My Choices, My Mistakes, My lessons, Not your business. So keep your nose out of my business !!!. I am only responsible for what I say not for what you understand. I am 90% sure that you don’t like me, but I am 100% sure I don’t care anymore. The older I get the more I understand that It is okay to live a life that others don’t understand. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad or guilty for living your life on your terms.

My life My Rules !!!! So, whatever happens, it will affect me not you !!!!

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

The Lightbox

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Dear Readers,

Sometimes I get stuck in this dark box where everything seems difficult and sad. Here I feel lonely, I feel paralyzed, I feel low. What if, one day I cannot move from here anymore? What if I am stuck for life? What if my plan of life does not work? I am scared, I am tired of fighting for my own life.

Have you ever felt like you don’t know what going on anymore in your life? Like you don’t care about anything anymore. You have lost your motivation to do anything. You are confused with your own feelings and you cannot explain how you feel. You have the feeling of emptiness and the feeling that no one is there for you. That feeling that no one understands you anymore. And it seems there is nothing to look forward anymore. Yeah, I get these feelings too.

Growing is painful. Change is painful. But nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere where you don’t belong. Letting go has nothing to do with “quitting”. Ask yourself,”Am I sticking it out or am I staying stuck?”. You know your self better than anyone.

Everyone is insecure about something, it’s not just you. You will never be 100% sure about the decisions you made in your life. But always make a decision because it’s better to go back and fix it than to never make it at all.Sometimes you will make the wrong decisions but you will save the energy and time to recover from it than if you make no decision at all.

We typically compare the worst we know of ourselves to the best we presume about others. There is always someone better than you. So there’s no point in comparing.

The strongest, happiest, the most successful people are NOT those who always win, but those who don’t give up when they lose. They fail forward. So keep calm when everything seems to be going wrong. You may feel weak, but your spirit is strong. When things are tough, you must be tougher. Don’t pray for an easy life; pray for the strength to endure a hard one that leads to long-term success and happiness. Nothing worthy in life comes easy.

Kindness is not to be mistaken for weakness, nor forgiveness for acceptance.You forgive people because you’re strong enough to know that people make mistakes. It is very hard for some people to keep their ego behind them and forgive others, but when you do forgive them you will definitely experience the load lift up from your mind and heart. Because that marks the point that you are able to move forward and are capable of making your life comfortable.

Truth be told, there are only a few people in this world that will stay 100% true to you, and YOU should be one of them.Create a life that feels good on the inside, not one that just looks good on the outside to everyone else. It is hard, I am sure.

It is always hard to lose something that has many memories with you but quite often, the successful people that act the happiest are the ones that have overcome the most. Sometimes you have to lose something precious in order to gain something priceless. Never regret your past mistakes and failures, because they have given you strength. They teach you about every aspect of life and how to act upon any problem you face. The one who falls and gets up is much stronger than the one who never fell.

The story of your life has many chapters. One bad chapter doesn’t mean it’s the end. So stop re-reading the bad one already and turn the page. Accept what is, let go of what was and have faith in what could be. If you cling on to your past, you will never move forward. It is hard to let go of your yesterday’s struggle but remember, life does not have to be anywhere near perfect to be wonderful in the end and that everything happens for the very best reasons. This is the part of the facts of life that guides you on every step of your journey, the one you know and the one you don’t know.

Don’t see this as a dark box where you feel stuck, see it as a lightbox where the box is all about the light of hope. A box where you find all that you always wished for. Believe in yourself!!! Life is much more than what you see and let the bigger picture find you.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

We Will Survive !!!

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Dear Readers,

Are we sad, hurt, angry, mad, disappointed and we put on a happy face and move on? We have been put down many times and still we rise again much stronger than before? Have we already been through hell and gave our best shot? We never give up on anything, we are survivors !!

Some people have seen so much in life that they have learned how to get out of any bad situation. They know tomorrow will bring them what they deserve even if it is little too late. They have done nothing wrong to anyone and nothing wrong will happen to them. There is nothing good in their lives but still, if you see them you feel that you want to have a smile like them. They are strong and fearless. They will never accept anything wrong in their lives even if there is a price to pay. They always know when to stay and when to move on. It is ok to be alone rather than to be in a place where you are not yourself. They don’t fight and waste their energy on stupid things, they just say what they have to say and stop caring about what the world has to say in return. It hurts them to know that they tried doing their best to keep the relation and still it wasn’t good enough.

No matter how hard life gets, we will still smile. It might knock us down but it cannot keep us down forever. Once the storm is over, we won’t remember how we made it through, how we manage to survive. But one thing certain, when we come out of the storm, we won’t be the same person anymore. We are given this life because we are strong enough to live it. They always shine.

Just a message to all the people that are finding their way to survive,”Life is too short to be in a bad surrounding and think that it is your destiny, Life is about kicking some badasses and making your life the way you dreamed. Stop complaining and start taking control of your own life. Do the right thing and wait for the right thing to happen. Nothing good is easy to get and nothing good comes in a hurry so just sit back and smile”.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

I Deserve Better !!!

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Dear Readers,

Have you been that person in life who has always cared about others feelings first? Have you not judged and respected everyone’s feelings? Have you always had an approach to understanding everyone out of the box? Have you always forgiven everyone who hurt you even if they have hurt you like a million times? Have you been hard on yourself just to make the opposite person happy and never expressed it at all? Have you kept your feelings to yourself just to avoid fights? Has your life been only about giving everything that you had? I guess no one ever understood why you do this, right?

In the process of making the world a better place some people just tend to forget themselves. It is so hard for them to step up and say,” What you said, hurt me, it’s not my fault and I don’t deserve this”. It is because they have been through a lot in life and a small amount of happiness means a lot even if it comes with a lot of compromises. They don’t want to miss out on any happiness even if it costs them their whole life. They are ok to let go of their anger, ego, attitude, self-esteem, and self-respect in order to be truly happy just for a few moments.

We don’t understand that everyone deserves better. Just that people that deserve don’t give up on people that they love. This quality should not be taken for granted. The problem is not with the person that took you for granted, the problem is yourself. You made excuses for their bad behavior, you accepted their obvious lies and you gave them another chance, again and again. You sold yourself for less, you did not believe you deserved better and you stayed too long. You learned the hard way, but you learned. You heart finally told you to stop wasting time. You deserve that love that you keep trying to give to everyone else. Never settle for shitty coffee, shitty friends or shitty men.

I told myself today that I deserve better. Maybe one day I will believe it.

Regards,
Swati chaurasia.