We Will Survive !!!

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Dear Readers,

Are we sad, hurt, angry, mad, disappointed and we put on a happy face and move on? We have been put down many times and still we rise again much stronger than before? Have we already been through hell and gave our best shot? We never give up on anything, we are survivors !!

Some people have seen so much in life that they have learned how to get out of any bad situation. They know tomorrow will bring them what they deserve even if it is little too late. They have done nothing wrong to anyone and nothing wrong will happen to them. There is nothing good in their lives but still, if you see them you feel that you want to have a smile like them. They are strong and fearless. They will never accept anything wrong in their lives even if there is a price to pay. They always know when to stay and when to move on. It is ok to be alone rather than to be in a place where you are not yourself. They don’t fight and waste their energy on stupid things, they just say what they have to say and stop caring about what the world has to say in return. It hurts them to know that they tried doing their best to keep the relation and still it wasn’t good enough.

No matter how hard life gets, we will still smile. It might knock us down but it cannot keep us down forever. Once the storm is over, we won’t remember how we made it through, how we manage to survive. But one thing certain, when we come out of the storm, we won’t be the same person anymore. We are given this life because we are strong enough to live it. They always shine.

Just a message to all the people that are finding their way to survive,”Life is too short to be in a bad surrounding and think that it is your destiny, Life is about kicking some badasses and making your life the way you dreamed. Stop complaining and start taking control of your own life. Do the right thing and wait for the right thing to happen. Nothing good is easy to get and nothing good comes in a hurry so just sit back and smile”.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

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I Deserve Better !!!

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Dear Readers,

Have you been that person in life who has always cared about others feelings first? Have you not judged and respected everyone’s feelings? Have you always had an approach to understanding everyone out of the box? Have you always forgiven everyone who hurt you even if they have hurt you like a million times? Have you been hard on yourself just to make the opposite person happy and never expressed it at all? Have you kept your feelings to yourself just to avoid fights? Has your life been only about giving everything that you had? I guess no one ever understood why you do this, right?

In the process of making the world a better place some people just tend to forget themselves. It is so hard for them to step up and say,” What you said, hurt me, it’s not my fault and I don’t deserve this”. It is because they have been through a lot in life and a small amount of happiness means a lot even if it comes with a lot of compromises. They don’t want to miss out on any happiness even if it costs them their whole life. They are ok to let go of their anger, ego, attitude, self-esteem, and self-respect in order to be truly happy just for a few moments.

We don’t understand that everyone deserves better. Just that people that deserve don’t give up on people that they love. This quality should not be taken for granted. The problem is not with the person that took you for granted, the problem is yourself. You made excuses for their bad behavior, you accepted their obvious lies and you gave them another chance, again and again. You sold yourself for less, you did not believe you deserved better and you stayed too long. You learned the hard way, but you learned. You heart finally told you to stop wasting time. You deserve that love that you keep trying to give to everyone else. Never settle for shitty coffee, shitty friends or shitty men.

I told myself today that I deserve better. Maybe one day I will believe it.

Regards,
Swati chaurasia.

Not all wounds are visible Mr. Judgemental

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Dear Readers,

We live in a society where we love tagging and labeling people. We tag them on the base of color, religion, money, eating habits and many more, I am sure it is a never-ending list. Sometimes without us even realizing, these judgments become a part of our beliefs about that person. When did we become so shallow in our thinking about other people?. When did we stop having an open mind about our thinking about others? When did we start to decide whom we want to talk to or be around without knowing the opposite person 1st handed? Why are we making our life complicated by judging everything and believing it as if it is a fact of life?

It is good to have an opinion about people that we have known in life. We maybe had bad experiences and that is how we would have landed up to a conclusion of the person. It is a good thing, it helps us to protect our feelings and these kinds of feeling should be respected. When did we start doing the same without knowing the opposite person and started calling that our opinion? It’s not our opinion, it’s our judgment and so we are Mr.Judgemental.

With our judgemental nature, we do hurt a lot of people and not all wounds are visible. We forget the fact that we can never understand the opposite person unless and until we have not been in their shoes. Then what is the point of judging them, to hurt them more or to show yourself that you have a better life? Everyone needs mental support and judgment just makes it more and more difficult. If you cannot help someone with their problems, you have no right to comment too. It is ok not to agree with others point of view or decisions but at least we can respect their decision with open arms. If we cannot even do that then, A humble request, just leave them alone !!!

To all the people that have been judged,”Never waste your time trying to explain who you are to people that are committed to misunderstanding you”. We are aware that we are less than some people, but some people are unaware that we are so much more than what they see. We already have a difficult life and your judgment just makes it even worst. Some people are lucky that they have a life with everything they ever wanted but for some people, they have to build everything right from scratch without support. Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge.

Know my story first and then you have all the right to judge me. Don’t judge me just because I think differently than you.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

Born to be alone !!!

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Dear Readers,

Love leads us to whole new different level in life. It either makes us a better person or breaks us to pieces so small that cannot be stuck together ever. I am the second kind. Broken childhood, a bad father and a lot of broken relationships. Still, I had always hoped that someday someone so good will come in my life and all of my past will just fade away as if it was never a part of my past.

Today somehow I feel all my broken relationships are my fault. Maybe I am not a person born to be in any relation. A person like me should be alone. People blame other for their bad relations, I blame myself. I always wanted to be that girl who has one person who loves her like crazy. All of my life till date I have done everything to get that and somehow I am still alone.

The common thing in all my relationships till date is me. I have to stand up and face the mirror, It is because of me. My track records say that I am born to be alone but I feel I should be alone. I have hurt so many people in life that I don’t deserve a happy ending. I should be punished to be alone and face my fears all by myself. It hurts knowing that I tried doing my best but it still wasn’t good enough. I had always thought that we are born to be real but I guess we have to be perfect to fall in love.

Life always gives you a chance to change and I guess this is mine. Time to change for others and live however you want and let others live happily.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

I want things that money can’t buy !!!

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Dear Readers,

Life of a working class, earn money and satisfy needs and then earn more money and satisfy more needs. With this life we forget one little thing, we have only one life and we have to live it too and the time gone is never going to come back again. Time gone got me thinking, “What if I get the power to roll back in time, I would love to get the time back which I wasted living up to other expectation and would have spent the same time loving myself a little more”. What I mean to say that we forget the real sense of life in our journey.

The most important thing that money can’t buy is love. All my life, I had thought that spending money can even buy love. Yes, it can buy you love but not for a really long time. Love is something which has to be unconditional or it will not be less than a business. 1st time in my life found people worth loving. I have never felt in such peace all my life. You are the luckiest person on earth when you are loved back from the same person you love. I am lucky to have love from my best friends that I love the most. I am lucky to have my parents without whom I cannot even imagine my life. And a love that I had always dreamed of, still not real but maybe someday my fairy tale will come true and I will have a smile on my face which was never seen before all my life.

The money that we earn or the position that we own in our professional life is useless without one person who will smile with us in our success. On the other hand, even if we are not successful we still have that one person by our side to drive us on our journey to success. People say money can buy all, I say love is priceless. No professional position or money can hold it back.

I am 30, single and independent. I am at that position in my life which has made me realized that how someone feels for you has nothing to do with the money that you earn. It has everything to do with how you make the opposite person feel for himself. Love only understands one currency, Love!!! Give love, get love in return and for your info, the interest rates are really good for a fixed deposit for a life time. Good luck!!!

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

Trust is everything in a relationship !!!

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Dear Readers,

There are certain things that we want in our relationships without which the relation has no meaning even if it exists. The most important are trust and honesty part of two people that are together in love. That got me thinking, how honest or open are we with our partners? Do we have to think twice before we open our heart and speak the truth? Are we scared of judgment from our partners?

It is good to have an honest relationship. The truth is the foundation on which every relationship is building. Honesty and openness always lead to a successful relationship. However, any relation is bound to fall apart when you start keeping things to yourself. Secrets don’t destroy things but the suspicions of a secret destroy everything, especially when your suspicions are confirmed. Being honest will never hurt anyone, being a liar hurts only you that is what I feel.

Why do we want to hide the truth from the person who we love so much? Do we want a relation without transparency? I believe, life is too short for all this and we need to understand that hiding and dishonesty are not going to take us anywhere. It is good if our relationship has no boundaries to understand each other. A relation that gives us a platform to express ourselves with the worst way possible and still you can expect,” Darling I know you are mad but it’s ok, I am around you forever to love you and support you”. A person that wants to hold your hands when you are shouting at the top of your voice. A life partner who has the courage to calm you down by giving you your space if needed or hugs you when you’re angry but still his ego does not get hurt or he feels inferior. A soul mate that trusts you with all his heart and is ready to love you no matter what kind of day’s time and future show them in life. An imperfect relationship to an imperfect man and the only way of perfection is with you by his side.

We want sincerity, honesty, truthfulness and transparency in our relationships with the person we love so dearly. We will love them if they give us time and attention. We will love them a lot if they love us and accept us with all our flaws and imperfection. We will love them more and more if they are honest and sincere with us. We will love them more than anything in this world if they are genuine and does not fake anything around us. We will love more than our lives and follow our love till the end of the world if they love us to the core of all their heart and soul.

Advice: In a relationship, don’t try to be perfect. Just be honest.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

There is no place for love?

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Dear Readers,

Our fast running metro city life has become so fast that there is no place for innocent emotions. Everyone wants you to run the rat race. There is a set pattern of a life cycle that people around you want you to follow and according to them, that’s the only way to success. If you wish to take any turn differently in your own life, you will be judged. You will be broken so badly that all you will land up with is a broken heart, bad memories which will scar you for life.

Have we come so far that we have no place for love in our lives anymore? Is the innocent emotion like friendship also now the part of the rat race? Are you signing up for being judged along with friendship? Has the fight become part of the deal alone with true love and commitment?

It is said,” Friendship is the one relation that we make in life, rest are God given”. What makes it so special is that it is the only relation where we are truly ourselves without any judgment. The love of a friend is so pure that people cross oceans just to make the other friend happy and smiling. When no one is on our side to help and support, that friend is standing rock solid and is ready to punch everyone on their faces just to make you feel ok. Friends don’t judge you for your mistakes and they also don’t judge you for your decision in life whether it is good or bad. Friends accept you for who you are and not for how the world wants to see you. Where did these feelings go? I somehow should start believing that these feeling and emotions are no longer required as feelings are bull shit and all that matters is the rat race.

I always felt that there are three chambers in our heart God, mom and dad and the love of our life is the heart where everyone lives happily ever after. There is never a time or a place for true love. It just happens accidentally, in a single heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment. When did love start coming alone with fights, judgments, treating opposite person badly and making people cry for keeping them happy? When someone gives everything their life to make you happy then that love needs to be cherished for life. It should not be kept behind the bars and judged for being honest, for being nice, for understanding your situation and intention and for accepting you with your past, present, and future.

What do people that still truly understand only love do in such a world? Love is what they want and they are ready to die for that. I feel there is no place for love and people who still believe in love have to make a new world for themselves. Some of us would have made that space for ourselves and have realized that we are the only one and we have to learn to live alone. We have no choice other than this to live.

We still say. “In all the world there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world there is no love for you like mine”.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia