I want things that money can’t buy !!!

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Dear Readers,

Life of a working class, earn money and satisfy needs and then earn more money and satisfy more needs. With this life we forget one little thing, we have only one life and we have to live it too and the time gone is never going to come back again. Time gone got me thinking, “What if I get the power to roll back in time, I would love to get the time back which I wasted living up to other expectation and would have spent the same time loving myself a little more”. What I mean to say that we forget the real sense of life in our journey.

The most important thing that money can’t buy is love. All my life, I had thought that spending money can even buy love. Yes, it can buy you love but not for a really long time. Love is something which has to be unconditional or it will not be less than a business. 1st time in my life found people worth loving. I have never felt in such peace all my life. You are the luckiest person on earth when you are loved back from the same person you love. I am lucky to have love from my best friends that I love the most. I am lucky to have my parents without whom I cannot even imagine my life. And a love that I had always dreamed of, still not real but maybe someday my fairy tale will come true and I will have a smile on my face which was never seen before all my life.

The money that we earn or the position that we own in our professional life is useless without one person who will smile with us in our success. On the other hand, even if we are not successful we still have that one person by our side to drive us on our journey to success. People say money can buy all, I say love is priceless. No professional position or money can hold it back.

I am 30, single and independent. I am at that position in my life which has made me realized that how someone feels for you has nothing to do with the money that you earn. It has everything to do with how you make the opposite person feel for himself. Love only understands one currency, Love!!! Give love, get love in return and for your info, the interest rates are really good for a fixed deposit for a life time. Good luck!!!

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

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Trust is everything in a relationship !!!

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Dear Readers,

There are certain things that we want in our relationships without which the relation has no meaning even if it exists. The most important are trust and honesty part of two people that are together in love. That got me thinking, how honest or open are we with our partners? Do we have to think twice before we open our heart and speak the truth? Are we scared of judgment from our partners?

It is good to have an honest relationship. The truth is the foundation on which every relationship is building. Honesty and openness always lead to a successful relationship. However, any relation is bound to fall apart when you start keeping things to yourself. Secrets don’t destroy things but the suspicions of a secret destroy everything, especially when your suspicions are confirmed. Being honest will never hurt anyone, being a liar hurts only you that is what I feel.

Why do we want to hide the truth from the person who we love so much? Do we want a relation without transparency? I believe, life is too short for all this and we need to understand that hiding and dishonesty are not going to take us anywhere. It is good if our relationship has no boundaries to understand each other. A relation that gives us a platform to express ourselves with the worst way possible and still you can expect,” Darling I know you are mad but it’s ok, I am around you forever to love you and support you”. A person that wants to hold your hands when you are shouting at the top of your voice. A life partner who has the courage to calm you down by giving you your space if needed or hugs you when you’re angry but still his ego does not get hurt or he feels inferior. A soul mate that trusts you with all his heart and is ready to love you no matter what kind of day’s time and future show them in life. An imperfect relationship to an imperfect man and the only way of perfection is with you by his side.

We want sincerity, honesty, truthfulness and transparency in our relationships with the person we love so dearly. We will love them if they give us time and attention. We will love them a lot if they love us and accept us with all our flaws and imperfection. We will love them more and more if they are honest and sincere with us. We will love them more than anything in this world if they are genuine and does not fake anything around us. We will love more than our lives and follow our love till the end of the world if they love us to the core of all their heart and soul.

Advice: In a relationship, don’t try to be perfect. Just be honest.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

There is no place for love?

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Dear Readers,

Our fast running metro city life has become so fast that there is no place for innocent emotions. Everyone wants you to run the rat race. There is a set pattern of a life cycle that people around you want you to follow and according to them, that’s the only way to success. If you wish to take any turn differently in your own life, you will be judged. You will be broken so badly that all you will land up with is a broken heart, bad memories which will scar you for life.

Have we come so far that we have no place for love in our lives anymore? Is the innocent emotion like friendship also now the part of the rat race? Are you signing up for being judged along with friendship? Has the fight become part of the deal alone with true love and commitment?

It is said,” Friendship is the one relation that we make in life, rest are God given”. What makes it so special is that it is the only relation where we are truly ourselves without any judgment. The love of a friend is so pure that people cross oceans just to make the other friend happy and smiling. When no one is on our side to help and support, that friend is standing rock solid and is ready to punch everyone on their faces just to make you feel ok. Friends don’t judge you for your mistakes and they also don’t judge you for your decision in life whether it is good or bad. Friends accept you for who you are and not for how the world wants to see you. Where did these feelings go? I somehow should start believing that these feeling and emotions are no longer required as feelings are bull shit and all that matters is the rat race.

I always felt that there are three chambers in our heart God, mom and dad and the love of our life is the heart where everyone lives happily ever after. There is never a time or a place for true love. It just happens accidentally, in a single heartbeat, in a single flashing, throbbing moment. When did love start coming alone with fights, judgments, treating opposite person badly and making people cry for keeping them happy? When someone gives everything their life to make you happy then that love needs to be cherished for life. It should not be kept behind the bars and judged for being honest, for being nice, for understanding your situation and intention and for accepting you with your past, present, and future.

What do people that still truly understand only love do in such a world? Love is what they want and they are ready to die for that. I feel there is no place for love and people who still believe in love have to make a new world for themselves. Some of us would have made that space for ourselves and have realized that we are the only one and we have to learn to live alone. We have no choice other than this to live.

We still say. “In all the world there is no heart for me like yours. In all the world there is no love for you like mine”.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

What’s the harm in believing?

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Dear Readers,

Sometimes in life, we just give up. We give up on people, we give up on ourselves and we sometimes give up on hope too and stop believing that someday all will be ok. It is like you are standing on the edge of a cliff and the only thing you can see is dead-end. You are so cornered in life that only thing you can think of is dying or running away. Hope, faith and courage surrender in front of your own eyes and you just stood numb and accepted your defeat. You hate your past, you’re dying in your present and you believe that you have no future.

When universe gave us life, the terms and conditions of the contract never said it will be easy. When something goes wrong why do we start cursing everything around us? When someone breaks our heart why did we feel it is the end of the world? Why do we close ourselves in one box and never want to see the world again? What’s the harm in believing? When you say that your life has touched rock bottom in relationships and love, will a little believe in hope harm it more?

In life, we forget one thing,” Nothing is constant around us, not even our pain”. The best things in life are worth waiting for, fighting for, believing in and just never letting go of just like that. Good things are going to happen and the only thing we should do now is to wait and watch. Love comes to those who still hope after disappointment, who still believe after betrayal and who still love after they have been hurt.

I hope we believe in ourselves as much as love believes in us. Love never lost hope on us, how can we lose hope…..!!! We will soon reach a place in our lives where we feel that we will be ok and that is the biggest part of the battle. We have to believe that we are meant for good more than the bad. Perhaps this may be the moment for which you have been created. Have faith….. It is all about believing, you don’t know how it will happen, but you it will.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

Never Fall In Love !!!

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Dear Readers,

We as an individual dream of a perfect life, a happy ending and what conquers all is love. This thought has been planted with our brains since we started watching fairy tales. We meet the perfect man, fall in love, get married and live happily ever after. In reality, there is nothing to knows as a perfect man, yes we do fall in love, we do get married but I still have dough on the happy ending thing.

What happens when we don’t find that one perfect man? What if love is not enough for a happily ever after? That means we will never get married and land up being single all our lives? I still don’t know how to react to this but in our modern world today love is just like having a burger, you find a burger joint, you try the burger, if you like the taste you become regular customer to the burger joint and when you had enough of the taste and the place, you find a new place to eat. When did love become less love and more materialist adjustment?

There are still some people that really love. They are on the verge of extinction. Soon a time will come when love will be just in the books and we will hear about it in the stories. People really don’t understand that relationship isn’t for taking things. They are for giving things. In real love, we never fall in love to make ourselves happy. We fall in love to make our love happy. It is really getting hard to trust someone when everyone you ever opened your heart of lets you down. It is like you are falling for someone that is not ready to catch you.

Never fall in love, fall off a bridge…. It will hurt you less !!! Even if we fall in love again with someone new, it could never be the same way how it was before. The pain part in love is carried forward to the next love and I hate to tell this but you are never without baggage if your heart was broken. The pain part of love will test you every single day. It will let you dough your decision and make you feel that falling in love is a mistake that you want to make again. Yes, we are human and we want to make the same mistakes again and again, expecting a different result out of it which will never happen. Maybe you are lucky in love…. I am not….

PS: Please don’t fall in love, other than the pain it was nothing to offer.

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia.

I am worth it !!!

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Dear Readers,

Happiness is the only thing that I had always been running behind all my life, my family is happy, my partner is happy and my friends are happy and healthy. Nothing more than that I ever wanted in life. To make this happen and to go that extra mile for someone had always been on my priority list. I always feel people whom I love are worth that effort. They are worth being loved and worth being cherished. I love them with all my heart and wish them all the happiness in this world.

This though always makes me wonder, “Am I worth it? Am I good enough that someone would love to travel all the way just to see me smile? Am I worth the shot that someone would love me with no conditions and no regrets? I am not saying I am perfect, in fact, I am far from it but will anyone love me with my imperfections? Will someone wake up every morning and feel that I am worth the fight to be in his life? Still finding the answers to these question and I hope I find the answer someday.

I feel I am worth being loved, I am worth an effort and I am worth being someone’s everything. I don’t chase people anymore. I learned that I am here and I am important. I am not going to run after people to prove that I matter. At the end of the day, I am a good woman. I am not perfect by any means but my intentions are good, my heart is pure and I love hard with everything I got and because of those things I am worth it. Always have been and always will be. If someone could not understand my worth, I am strong enough to walk off. I am silly blunt and broken. My days are sometimes too dark and insane and my nights are sometimes too long to end. I often trip over my own securities and fear of being alone. I require attention, long for passion and a wish to be desired. I use music to speak when words fail me, even though words are as important to me as the air I breathe. I love hard with all that I have…. and even with my faults, I am worth a chance.

I really have no clue why people leave me and go or why people hurt me but next time please gives your best shot. You can break me but you cannot let me down. I will rise again much stronger than before and trust me it will be a treat to watch so wait and I will be back…..

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia

I can never give up !!!

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Dear Readers,

I had always believed that life is like night and day, the sun goes down and the stars come up. With my life experiences, I have learned that to change things in your life you have to turn the page of your life story all by yourself. I know it is easier said than done but think for one second what will happen if you make a choice for yourself…..

I have always heard people saying, “I am keeping myself away from my own happiness for my family”. I just have one question,” If you are not happy how you can keep anyone happy?” Even your sacrifice will not make anyone happy around you and the motto of doing this can never meet success. Happiness should come from within to make the surrounding happy. We can pretend to be happy one day two-day but we cannot do that for life. A day will come when we will burst like a volcano and destroy everything around us…. Do we want that? I feel no we don’t!!!

Good things come to those who believe, better things come to those who are patient and the best things come to those you don’t give up. The Harder the struggle, the more glorious the success. Never forget that you were given this life because you are strong enough to live it. I understand today is hard, tomorrow may be worst but the day after tomorrow will be the sunshine and that the day you will feel it was worth the wait. When the world says, “Give up”, hope whispers,” Try one more time”.

I will never stop trying because when you find the one… you never give up. It is crazy, it is stupid but it is love. I love you and will never leave you, even if there are a hundred reasons to give up, I will find one reason to hold on. I am confident that no one can ever love you as much as I love you, no one can give you that place in their life as you hold in mine. You have captured my heart as well my soul…. any distance from you is unbearable but I will wait for you for all eternity. I will not ask for anything….. I will wait and watch how much life wants to test my patients, mind you, you will lose…..

Regards,
Swati Chaurasia